A small man who could marry there even up to tens of dozens of women. How come? How good view of the medical (health) as well as religious?
FOR men generally, have a fair wife. Have 2 wives overwhelmed, let alone more than that. Overwhelmed here, both in terms of outer and inner fulfillment.
But Juaini Rahman alias Jon, if not included in the latter class of people. Men''mighty''who is now residing in Praya, Central Lombok, had been married 44 women. And, rare among men generally, Jon can collect four wives in one house.
Before the meet, is imagined in the minds that figure will be found to have look like the artist who frequently appears on television.
My curiosity was finally answered after the meeting. Facial expressions and body postures that men 52 years is not much different to men his age in general.
When Lombok Post arrived at his residence, Jon happened to be chatting with one of his colleagues on the home page that directly deal with the rice. They look serious conversation if only for repose a worn mat. They looked accompanied each cup of coffee.
Because the mat does not load when used to sit three people, Jon was forced to give in and sit on the grass.
A moment later, he then threw an invitation. ''We in the alone. Not comfortable talking here,''Jon after journalists invited to introduce themselves and express purpose of his visit.
Call Jon had to be rejected. That's because (sorry) Jon cursory house is quite narrow. Moreover, dozens of her children if it is currently playing in the house. Conversations would not be representative if held in the house.
''I've been married 44 times. And, I have a target of getting married as much as 100 times,''said Jon-initial words.
Of the dozens of women who have married it, Jon just never got widowed twice (two people). And that's widow who had no children from her previous husband. The rest, the woman who married a girl alias has never married.
During this time, Jon has a habit of collecting four wives at a time in a house. A difficult conditions is highly unlikely even done by men in general. But for him, it's something normal. Instead, he would feel awkward if you do not have four wives.
''Now I have not been quiet since his wife only three,''he said. ''This one is my recent divorce. I'll get married again,''continued Jon.
Three women are still the wife is Radiah, Hilman, and Mahyun. He married Radiah in 1980. Radiah is the longest surviving women. From the woman from this handsome, Jon obtain 10 sons and daughters.
While Hilman, married since 13 years. While the new Mahyun married 1.5 years ago and have not had children because it had a miscarriage.
To-44 women who had dipersunting Jon, they came from various regions. He is sure to marry women in each island have ever visited. When migrated to the plains of Java, Javanese woman he married 11 times. In Dumai 3 times. And, the two women on the island of Borneo.
Of the dozens of women who he had married, Jon has been endowed with about 58 children. 28 of whom are still alive today. The rest have died. And, of dozens of his son, 15 of them lived with Jon. While others lived with their mother.
The first woman to get a virginity Jon is Siti Aisyah. A woman from Aikmel, East Lombok (Lotim). He married the woman in 1976.What makes him able to subdue the woman tens heart?
Hearing the question, without hesitation and Jon hesitate to expose her secret. Easily she gets married women who want it can not be separated from the influence of science (like pellets) that he has. Studies were obtained by way of penance in one grave in 1974. Since then, he is so easy to get anywhere she desired.
Jon's Pellets used in various ways. Depending on the formulation of the name of the woman who shot. Can the call to prayer, eyes, Rooms, and it could be other ways. Depending on the formulation of''name,''he said.
Because of his knowledge of that, Jon was never a headache thinking about the cost of the wedding. He simply provides the money about USD 300 to USD 500 thousand to the cost of a wedding letter only. Women who are married do not ask for dowry high because it was beside himself and resigned. ''In fact I paid,''he admitted.
Beyond his love of collecting four wives, Jon actually comes from a mediocre family. His house was still united with their parents. Jon residence, consisting of one bedroom and one guest room that also functions as a kitchen. That's where Jon lives with his wife and three teenage children today.
Even with a mediocre condition, all his wife still get along. They were never involved in fights with each other.
Sometimes Jon is naughty and a little bear's. He deliberately make trouble if already bored with one of his wife. And, it would be a reason for him to divorce his wife who had not wanted care.
At one point, the story of Jon, he accidentally put the money in the open in the house. Jon traps worked because one of his wife took the money she put it. It later became one of the reasons for divorcing his wife who took the money.
To support his many wives and children, Jon doing odd jobs.
Lately, he diligently to earn a fortune through a gold mine. Previously, he worked as a fisherman freshwater.
Because of a mediocre economy, education dozens of children are not neglected.If this situation, why should frequent mating divorced and had many children?
Curly-haired man replied lightly. Running''Sunnah Rasul. I can do justice and never collected more than four people,''he said.
As a Muslim, Jon wants to have as many children as-much. Thus, the Muslim population will multiply. Polygamy for Emotional Effect
MARRIED, build homes and establish a family that sakinah is a dream of every person. But the journey is sometimes not all of them as you wish.
Many factors that cause the rift or disruption in the household. Including those caused by the behavior or words said one of the two parties (husband and wife) or both.
One factor, the existence of the male desire to remarry. In Islamic law, married more than once (polygamy) is not prohibited. For this reason, sometimes used as a powerful weapon of Adam to find and add to his life partner.
Such excuses, sometimes used for the benefit of the individual, regardless of the true meaning and intent of polygamy. In the midst of today's society, many men found to marry more than once, can even be said many times.
In the view of psychologists, the desire to marry more than once is common. This is generally due to the influence of emotional man himself. Emotional''could love, happy, angry, and so forth,''said one psychologist in Mataram, Dr. Elly Rosila, SpKJ to Lombok Post, yesterday.
During this time many common, the desire for re-married men are more emotional because that often explode. In addition to emotional, not a few other things that cause men never stop to look for another partner.
One of them due to hormonal influences that exist in the body. ''It could also because there is disorder or better known by the term hiperseks,''the light head Mental Hospital (RSJ) Mataram this.
Such turbulence can not be overcome, except by controlling the emotions that always exploded it. However, these errors are not all shed the men. ''Many wives are not able to serve the husband. One of them by letting her husband to marry again,''he said.
The reason is, sometimes it becomes a powerful weapon for men to seek another partner. The reason wives who are not able to serve the husband be the main cause. Hiperseks''But it is relatively true,''said Elly.
For those wives who are not able to serve her husband, happy to give permission to the spouse (husband) was to look for another companion. ''Normally, this kind of wife do not have the burden although they had to polygamy,''he said.
But there is also a wife who is up to the stress of her husband's polygamy. Impact on the family was quite large. And, more to the psychological impact of the wife.
''If there is still psychological impact, but it depends what kind of thinking person. If it's him (wife, Red) could accept her husband's polygamy, of course, will be taken casually, without having to burden the mind,''he added.
Psychic influence usually occurs because of jealousy. ''If this had appeared, would have a major impact on her psyche,''he said again.
In addition to the wife's psychological impact, especially in health are also other impacts can not be ruled out. Only, back to the resilience of the body.
''I'm not saying agree to polygamy, but who need to understand the physical endurance would be influential for men,''she said, smiling.
Another opinion says, the husband wanted to get married again is not simply to satisfy sexual needs. But, there are also other reasons associated with the condition of households and spouses.
Allowed, Origin Ability Fair
Among the scholars themselves judge, polygamy, whether any amount-allowed in Islam. Moreover, the Prophet Muhammad gave an example by making polygamy. However, polygamy is justified only when the husband was able to be fair.
''If he was not able to be fair, the married one is better for him,''said Caretakers Cottage Ponpes Nurul Hakim Kediri, Lombok Barat, TGH Muharrar Mahfudz.According Muharrar, just referred to is in terms of the division of property and mental rations. As for love judged difficult for anyone to be fair.
''Do not get because it has a tendency in love with one wife, the wife of another abandoned,''he said.
Polygamy, actually contains much wisdom. For example, when many wars in which many men who died, it is highly recommended polygamy. Because with the low number of men, a lot of widows and children who are not protected, even abandoned.
A pious man who polygamy, also considered will produce many children who get a good religious education.
It's just an unfortunate, polygamy is often misunderstood by some people. And, polygamy would only be used as the event satisfying lust. So many instances a person who likes to mating divorce his wife and abandoning his children.
''There also are being unfair, causing a split in his family,''said Muharrar. In fact, he continued, this fair is a necessary condition for polygamy,''he said.
Name Jon populis enough among some male polygamist in Praya and surrounding areas.
His house is currently on the Environment Srigangge, Kelurahan Tiwu Galina, Praya. Precisely, on the west BTN Bonter, rear Praya Hospital. Only about 15 meters to the north side of the road.Lombok Post only need to ask twice to find Jon's house. This was because it was backed by the popularity of Jon in the environment.
Before arriving in Srigangge, this newspaper reporter was curious about the figure of Jon. Because of all this, Jon's name was only heard from other people's stories. Never look directly and speak privately with the conqueror tens woman.
Before the meet, is imagined in the minds that figure will be found to have look like the artist who frequently appears on television.
My curiosity was finally answered after the meeting. Facial expressions and body postures that men 52 years is not much different to men his age in general.
When Lombok Post arrived at his residence, Jon happened to be chatting with one of his colleagues on the home page that directly deal with the rice. They look serious conversation if only for repose a worn mat. They looked accompanied each cup of coffee.
Because the mat does not load when used to sit three people, Jon was forced to give in and sit on the grass.
A moment later, he then threw an invitation. ''We in the alone. Not comfortable talking here,''Jon after journalists invited to introduce themselves and express purpose of his visit.
Call Jon had to be rejected. That's because (sorry) Jon cursory house is quite narrow. Moreover, dozens of her children if it is currently playing in the house. Conversations would not be representative if held in the house.
''I've been married 44 times. And, I have a target of getting married as much as 100 times,''said Jon-initial words.
Of the dozens of women who have married it, Jon just never got widowed twice (two people). And that's widow who had no children from her previous husband. The rest, the woman who married a girl alias has never married.
During this time, Jon has a habit of collecting four wives at a time in a house. A difficult conditions is highly unlikely even done by men in general. But for him, it's something normal. Instead, he would feel awkward if you do not have four wives.
''Now I have not been quiet since his wife only three,''he said. ''This one is my recent divorce. I'll get married again,''continued Jon.
Three women are still the wife is Radiah, Hilman, and Mahyun. He married Radiah in 1980. Radiah is the longest surviving women. From the woman from this handsome, Jon obtain 10 sons and daughters.
While Hilman, married since 13 years. While the new Mahyun married 1.5 years ago and have not had children because it had a miscarriage.
To-44 women who had dipersunting Jon, they came from various regions. He is sure to marry women in each island have ever visited. When migrated to the plains of Java, Javanese woman he married 11 times. In Dumai 3 times. And, the two women on the island of Borneo.
Of the dozens of women who he had married, Jon has been endowed with about 58 children. 28 of whom are still alive today. The rest have died. And, of dozens of his son, 15 of them lived with Jon. While others lived with their mother.
The first woman to get a virginity Jon is Siti Aisyah. A woman from Aikmel, East Lombok (Lotim). He married the woman in 1976.What makes him able to subdue the woman tens heart?
Hearing the question, without hesitation and Jon hesitate to expose her secret. Easily she gets married women who want it can not be separated from the influence of science (like pellets) that he has. Studies were obtained by way of penance in one grave in 1974. Since then, he is so easy to get anywhere she desired.
Jon's Pellets used in various ways. Depending on the formulation of the name of the woman who shot. Can the call to prayer, eyes, Rooms, and it could be other ways. Depending on the formulation of''name,''he said.
Because of his knowledge of that, Jon was never a headache thinking about the cost of the wedding. He simply provides the money about USD 300 to USD 500 thousand to the cost of a wedding letter only. Women who are married do not ask for dowry high because it was beside himself and resigned. ''In fact I paid,''he admitted.
Beyond his love of collecting four wives, Jon actually comes from a mediocre family. His house was still united with their parents. Jon residence, consisting of one bedroom and one guest room that also functions as a kitchen. That's where Jon lives with his wife and three teenage children today.
Even with a mediocre condition, all his wife still get along. They were never involved in fights with each other.
Sometimes Jon is naughty and a little bear's. He deliberately make trouble if already bored with one of his wife. And, it would be a reason for him to divorce his wife who had not wanted care.
At one point, the story of Jon, he accidentally put the money in the open in the house. Jon traps worked because one of his wife took the money she put it. It later became one of the reasons for divorcing his wife who took the money.
To support his many wives and children, Jon doing odd jobs.
Lately, he diligently to earn a fortune through a gold mine. Previously, he worked as a fisherman freshwater.
Because of a mediocre economy, education dozens of children are not neglected.If this situation, why should frequent mating divorced and had many children?
Curly-haired man replied lightly. Running''Sunnah Rasul. I can do justice and never collected more than four people,''he said.
As a Muslim, Jon wants to have as many children as-much. Thus, the Muslim population will multiply. Polygamy for Emotional Effect
MARRIED, build homes and establish a family that sakinah is a dream of every person. But the journey is sometimes not all of them as you wish.
Many factors that cause the rift or disruption in the household. Including those caused by the behavior or words said one of the two parties (husband and wife) or both.
One factor, the existence of the male desire to remarry. In Islamic law, married more than once (polygamy) is not prohibited. For this reason, sometimes used as a powerful weapon of Adam to find and add to his life partner.
Such excuses, sometimes used for the benefit of the individual, regardless of the true meaning and intent of polygamy. In the midst of today's society, many men found to marry more than once, can even be said many times.
In the view of psychologists, the desire to marry more than once is common. This is generally due to the influence of emotional man himself. Emotional''could love, happy, angry, and so forth,''said one psychologist in Mataram, Dr. Elly Rosila, SpKJ to Lombok Post, yesterday.
During this time many common, the desire for re-married men are more emotional because that often explode. In addition to emotional, not a few other things that cause men never stop to look for another partner.
One of them due to hormonal influences that exist in the body. ''It could also because there is disorder or better known by the term hiperseks,''the light head Mental Hospital (RSJ) Mataram this.
Such turbulence can not be overcome, except by controlling the emotions that always exploded it. However, these errors are not all shed the men. ''Many wives are not able to serve the husband. One of them by letting her husband to marry again,''he said.
The reason is, sometimes it becomes a powerful weapon for men to seek another partner. The reason wives who are not able to serve the husband be the main cause. Hiperseks''But it is relatively true,''said Elly.
For those wives who are not able to serve her husband, happy to give permission to the spouse (husband) was to look for another companion. ''Normally, this kind of wife do not have the burden although they had to polygamy,''he said.
But there is also a wife who is up to the stress of her husband's polygamy. Impact on the family was quite large. And, more to the psychological impact of the wife.
''If there is still psychological impact, but it depends what kind of thinking person. If it's him (wife, Red) could accept her husband's polygamy, of course, will be taken casually, without having to burden the mind,''he added.
Psychic influence usually occurs because of jealousy. ''If this had appeared, would have a major impact on her psyche,''he said again.
In addition to the wife's psychological impact, especially in health are also other impacts can not be ruled out. Only, back to the resilience of the body.
''I'm not saying agree to polygamy, but who need to understand the physical endurance would be influential for men,''she said, smiling.
Another opinion says, the husband wanted to get married again is not simply to satisfy sexual needs. But, there are also other reasons associated with the condition of households and spouses.
Allowed, Origin Ability Fair
Among the scholars themselves judge, polygamy, whether any amount-allowed in Islam. Moreover, the Prophet Muhammad gave an example by making polygamy. However, polygamy is justified only when the husband was able to be fair.
''If he was not able to be fair, the married one is better for him,''said Caretakers Cottage Ponpes Nurul Hakim Kediri, Lombok Barat, TGH Muharrar Mahfudz.According Muharrar, just referred to is in terms of the division of property and mental rations. As for love judged difficult for anyone to be fair.
''Do not get because it has a tendency in love with one wife, the wife of another abandoned,''he said.
Polygamy, actually contains much wisdom. For example, when many wars in which many men who died, it is highly recommended polygamy. Because with the low number of men, a lot of widows and children who are not protected, even abandoned.
A pious man who polygamy, also considered will produce many children who get a good religious education.
It's just an unfortunate, polygamy is often misunderstood by some people. And, polygamy would only be used as the event satisfying lust. So many instances a person who likes to mating divorce his wife and abandoning his children.
''There also are being unfair, causing a split in his family,''said Muharrar. In fact, he continued, this fair is a necessary condition for polygamy,''he said.
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